Kalimantan's not too bad, I've been in Indonesia 17 years, 9 of those in Kalimantan and I still think Balikpapan is on of the best places to live/work in Indonesia, Bali being the best. As for the magic I think you'll find it's more that the guys can't control themselves and like the use "magic" as an excuse. I'm happily married of 12 years and don't seem to have any problems with magic (lookings okay). Actually, my wife and family have been living in Bali since end of 2006 and still I'm immune to the magic. Next time you're in Bali you should let us know would love to catch up with you and Frank,
Regards from Kal-Tim